Mary Rosier
The best way to help your son is for you and your husband to join "Al-Anon" ASAP. Find a group where you feel comfortable and accepted. Give it an honest chance to work and if you must, join alone and go alone, do it, but GO. From experience, I can tell you that Al-Anon literally saved my life and my sanity. Do not allow your son's addiction to ruin your life; learn to be happy and love him despite his problem (which you cannot "fix"). The best of luck, and may you find the peace that Al-Anon has given to my life.